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Saturday, July 07, 2012

The Science of Body Language: Signs of Confidence

We've all heard it before; actions speak louder than words. It's because of this phrase that many people have started studying body language as a science and an art. The uses can be extensive from corporate meetings to picking up girls in a club. What's amazing is even if you're not drop-dead gorgeous or the C.E.O. of a multinational company, the right body language can be your golden ticket to looking confident. So let's discuss the key signs of body language that can unlock your hidden potential.

1. Open Up

Talk to me. I'm wide open.
Always leave yourself open. Cross your arms and you might as well wave goodbye to people. Your arms act like doors and leaving them open is an invitation for others to approach you. In the past, people would use the handshake as a sign of reassurance that you're not carrying any weapons. In this day and age open hands mean you have nothing to hide and are ready to meet new people.

2. The I'm-not-sorry Posture

If loving you is wrong then I don't want to be right!
I've seen people move around as if they feel sorry for themselves. They look down as they walk, keep their hands behind their backs and always slouch as if to say "sorry, I don't know what I'm doing here." The problem with this is no one will respect you if you don't start respecting yourself. Stick your chest out and stand tall. If Superman were to slouch every time he faced an opponent, Louis Lane would be able to tell he was Clark Kent even without the glasses.

3. Smile

You don't have to be a super model or the next Brad Pitt to pull off a beautiful smile. All you have to do is relax your face a bit and think happy thoughts. Also, the benefits of smiling are endless: it makes you look twice as attractive; it's contagious and can brighten anyone's mood; and it's another invitation for people to talk to you and even be your friends. So smile more and think less. Let smiling be your key to success.

4. Electrify with a Touch

This can be tricky especially when you're not sure if the person's open enough to being touched. A safe measure is to check their reaction as you approach them. If they step, lean, or look away as you move closer then most probably they're not comfortable being touched. Otherwise proceed to the next key sign of confidence in body language: electrifying with a touch. I say electrify because it's no exaggeration that touching someone's forearm or patting them on the shoulder can give shocking results in terms of getting a positive reply and being more convincing.

5. Eye Contact

I'm looking at you.
Eye contact is so important that you can't normally initiate a conversation without first making eye contact. When you make eye contact with someone this usually gives you the green light to start a conversation. This form of body language is so powerful that two complete strangers will feel uncomfortable making eye contact with each other unless they feel a strong connection to one another. This is why making eye contact with the audience not only gets their attention but also lets you establish a connection with them.

It only takes three seconds to make a first impression and body language plays an essential role in making an impact on your first encounter. Remember, it's not so much as what you say or what you wear, but more on how you say it and how you bring yourself.


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